Emotional Wellness
How to stay sane!
Emotional wellness is all about feeling your feelings and being able to communicate in relationships in an appropriate manner. It also means defining where your boundaries are. When your outside matches your insides!
For instance when you say: "That's ok" and you don't mean it. So what are you afraid of? If you are not in touch with your real feelings, how do you communicate how you really feel?
IDENTIFY...
A good way to
Negative feelings are not unhealthy. The behavior that goes with those feelings can be. Change the behavior.
Sometimes feelings will appear without warning. Could be some old "stuff" that you have been denying for awhile. For instance: "Oh, I am not angry with Aunt Bee for leaving me. That was a long time ago".
FREEDOM IS...
Maybe you are angry, hurt and scared. You must go through a healing process. When you can identify, feel the feelings and then let it go, only then will you be free.
This is also true with positive feelings. Check this out: Is this real love?
Sometimes this healing process takes long time. There are four steps to this process:
- Denial
- Bargaining
- Anger
- Acceptance
And it does not happen necessarily in that order! This process of dealing with feelings, old or new, can take time. It depends on your willingness to be honest with what is really going on.
Let yourself feel your feelings whether it is comfortable or not. Honor them and let them go.
CHECK IT OUT!
A quick inventory at the end of the day can help to keep your emotional wellness in check. How did you feel today? Did you say mean things to anyone? Do you need to make an amends to anyone? Were you honest?
Sometimes, you may need a little extra help. Feelings don't kill you, however, inappropriate behavior can. Consider getting some professional help. The better emotional wellness you have, the more freedom you will have to be "sane" and enjoy this wonderful world you live in!
